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ConnectingThose Who Have Been Widowed

Posted by Tamara Blake on Nov 30, 2015 2:36:00 PM

Time and time again, we are asked to bring all of our widowed members together. We are always thrilled each time we can offer a Widow Care Connection event, or even an educational series seminar. Something very powerful happens when widows and widowers are brought together. We have seen this amazing force through our Widow Care Connection groups.

We serve individuals throughout all levels of widowhood. In fact, we have widowed members who are just several months from the loss of their spouse and even almost 20 years from the loss. We have seen the incredible strength in our widowed members as providing inspiration and courage to other members who are beginning their experience as a widow or widower. While the experience of widowhood may be similar, each experience is unique. The connections formed assist in gaining pertinent knowledge from one another.

In the vision for Widow Care, another important aspect of connecting one another has been the model of reciprocity our organization holds. Through giving our services, we have an expectation that eventually, when a widow or widower is capable, he or she will give back to others in distress. In forming these important connections, we often see discussions take place that fit this very idea of reciprocity. There tends to be a spark of inspiration that can often be seen in the eyes of our widowed members when they realize they have a talent or expertise they could offer to someone else.

Many services offered around the nation for those who have lost a spouse focus on joining people together. Most statistics show group resources are just as helpful, if not more so, than individual services. This speaks to the helpfulness of bereavement groups or even social groups, such as our Widow Care Connection events. Whether the topic of triggers comes up, or the need to turn for someone for help for household projects, there is a bond that is understood, appreciated, and respected immediately between those who have been widowed.

It is intuitive, really. The essence in bringing together people who have experienced the loss of a spouse acts as a natural support for those suffering. The nod of a head, the gentle prompt to continue with a story, the light touch of a hand when one senses another is in distress. The ability to understand, truly understand, in just a few words which otherwise might take hours to explain to someone who has not experienced such loss. This truly is the importance of connectedness among those who have been widowed.