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Widows' Hope

ConnectingThose Who Have Been Widowed

Posted by Tamara Blake on Nov 30, 2015 2:36:00 PM

Time and time again, we are asked to bring all of our widowed members together. We are always thrilled each time we can offer a Widow Care Connection event, or even an educational series seminar. Something very powerful happens when widows and widowers are brought together. We have seen this amazing force through our Widow Care Connection groups.

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The College Process for Children of Widows and Widowers 

Posted by Tamara Blake on Nov 19, 2015 12:15:00 PM

Having a high school senior getting ready to complete the college process can be an extremely daunting task. As one can imagine, it can be even more of a daunting task as a widow or widower. As in every relationship, talents differ and often, financial or paperwork tasks are unofficially assigned to one person within the union. When facing widowhood and the college application process, often the person skilled at handling such tasks is no longer there to assist. Alternatively, the surviving caregiver of said child entering college is often so overwhelmed with the raging change of widowhood that he or she will feel unequipped to face such an intimidating task.

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Mentoring For Children of Widows and Widowers

Posted by Tamara Blake on Nov 19, 2015 10:42:00 AM

As individuals face widowhood, children of widows and widowers are also facing the loss of a parental figure. This can become increasingly difficult if a widow is suddenly a single parent to sons, or a widower is now raising girls alone. When children are in their teenage or young adult years, this presents some unique challenges. It is an ever present glaring moment for widowed parents who realize there are certain questions or topics that just might be handled best with the presence of their spouse. Now, this is true in any circumstances, regardless of gender. There are certain milestones reached where the loss of a partner becomes particularly glaring.

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Depression and Widowhood

Posted by Tamara Blake on Nov 17, 2015 12:15:00 PM

We have all seen the commercials and movies that illustrate the symptoms of depression. The heart wrenching moment of a dog pleading for his owner to take a walk with him. Concerned family members nothing more than helpless onlookers as their loved one faces indescribable pain as they spend hours, days, or even weeks in bed. Children unable to engage or understand their lifeless parent who is rapidly losing weight and interest in activities. Upon being widowed, depression will commonly hit – and oftentimes, it can hit hard.

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Dating Again for Widows and Widowers

Posted by Tamara Blake on Nov 4, 2015 2:28:00 PM

Dating.  Often just the word “Dating” can elicit a shudder, a negative response, or prompt a memory of that awful first date you went on that caused many moments of wondering if you were on a reality television show that places people in awkward positons and leaves you wondering “is this really happening to me?” Those same dates become the cornerstone conversation with your friends over dinner, until you all laugh until your stomachs cramp and there are tears flowing out of your eyes.

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The Misunderstanding About Grief

Posted by Tamara Blake on Nov 2, 2015 3:46:00 PM

In conversations that I have had with people about the experiences of loss, grieving, and widowhood, several themes tend to be recurring. One of the most common things someone can feel after facing the loss of a spouse is that they should be “over it” already, according to the perception of messages received. Nothing could be farther from the truth.

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Organizing 101 for Widows and Widowers

Posted by Tamara Blake on Nov 2, 2015 3:45:00 PM

Lately, I have been meeting with several professional organizers. The overwhelming need for help for “what to do with the items of my spouse” has been in the forefront of a common issue facing a widow or widower. In fact, our most recent Widow Care Connection was focused on the topic of “Rightsizing”, which incorporated tips on the organization and preservation of the possessions of the departed spouse. Time and time again we hear from our widowed members that they need assistance with such topics. One of the concerns those who have been widowed most recently face is the sudden onset of mixed emotions that arise from items that belonged to a deceased spouse. The reactions of how these items are handles are as varied as the items themselves. Similar to the “fight, flight, or freeze” response when facing stress, typical reactions to personal property is to completely purge the items or saving every time, thus doing nothing.  As one can imagine, both of these responses can be somewhat problematic.

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